Growing up, I heard so much about love and how beautiful it is to fall in love. My friends all had stories of their escapades with their boyfriends, and I secretly wished that some day, I should be able to fall in love with my '' Prince Charming'' and at least enjoy my life the way I should...Fast forward to my later years, I have discovered both by experience or by learning that like my young friends, I had a lot of misconceptions about love, they were stupid lies!
- LOVE IS A MAGICAL FEELING Often times when people fall in love, the experience is often characterized by a surge of romantic feeling with butterflies -in -the stomach kind of ebb. I thought those where what I needed to identify true love, so I waited for that right person. How wrong I was! I have since learnt that feelings come and go. They fluctuate and are not long lasting. Besides, feelings are usually dependent on people's behaviour towards you. when people treat you right, you feel good towards them, but when they don't, chances are that you will feel bad. In relationships, there are times when you feel like this isn't it. you know why? you are both different individuals with different body make up and probably respond to issues differently. To set yourself free, know that love is not a feeling. It is an action word that depicts what you do. The day you decided to love, you decided to help another become better and this may entail staying with them even when they dont make you feel good. this does not negate the fact that, love is accompanied by feelings, but it surely goes beyond it. Like a philosopher once said, the reason we need love as humans is because we are not perfect. If we are perfect, we sure do not need love.
- LOVE IS SOMETHING I CAN'T EXPLAIN Every good thing should be explainable. You don't have to explain to people, but you should have an explanation for it. Sometimes, even when no one asks me, I know I should have an answer to the one - million - dollar question "why do I love this person?" This is to enable me put things in perception. Unfortunately, we are misguided into believing that Love is such a magical thing you cant explain. This has caused untold damage to a lot of young people as we have done a lot of bizarre things in the name of love. we have abandoned our dreams, our lives, our families just because we are in love. This is why I recommend that you keep away from anyone who can't answer your questions about love, they probably don't know what they are doing, and when they know, you might turn out to be the wrong thing. Love is such a beautiful thing you should be able to explain it.
- OUR LOVE FOR EACH OTHER CONQUERS ALL THINGS I often hear people say that nothing else matters provided they have love for each other. I also believed that lie until my experience taught me that it is the dumbest thing I have believed in a while.I have watched people live frustrating lives because they chose to ignore glaring warning signs about people they want to marry simply because they love them. (like people who are not genetically incompatible but went ahead and had to live their life struggling with trying to save their offspring from the cold hands of sickle cell anemia). I am one of thos who believe in the tremendous power of love and its ability to conquer issues, but I also advocate that you deal with those issues that need to be dealt with. Face them squarely and ensure that you understand and can handle their practical implications before you make the commitment. For instance, your guy works very late all the time and you know you enjoy spending time with your partner. do not insist that love is what matters, because the smallest thing if not handled can destroy the relationship. Get real, ask questions and make sure you understand it all and then decide to deal with them.
- WHEN I LOVE SOMEONE, I LET THEM BE THEMSELVES Nothing has ever been misunderstood about love that the issue of letting our partners be themselves in matters of love. We let people misbehave and treat us in undeserving ways with no explanation simply because we love them and shouldn't try to change them. Love is a commitment that demands a level of responsibility from the people who claim to love us. Love must be tough! oh yes, I insist. If someone claims they love you and have no respect for your time and your plans, you should question their love. If a guy claims he loves you and still beat you, should you continue giving excuses for him? No. Please insist that people who claim they love you commit to making you happy. Even though I advise that you decide to be happy on your own and that you should treat your partner in loving ways irrespective of how they treat you, but I still maintain that your partner should have a disposition of someone who wants to treat you right and you should demand same from them too.
- LOVE IS OF DIFFERENT TYPES: Loving people can really be hectic if we give into the lie that there are different kinds of love. This is because we have a lot of people to love ranging from our parents, siblings, colleagues, spouses, friends and the list goes on and on. These relationships have their demands on us and if we are not careful, we run into confusion and we loose ourselves doing this. Like they say, Life begins at definition and I think it is important that we understand that love is the same and relationships are different. The love I have for my mother is the same as the one I have for my partner. By my love for them, have decided to make life better for them but what determines my expression of that love is my relationship with them. For my mother, I relate with her as my mother and treat her well within the confines of my relationship with her. With my spouse, I love them and treat them as my spouse. so, the next time someone tries to blackmail you into doing something wrong all in the name of love, please remind them of the kind of relationship between you two.
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